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Friendship Initiation Imbalance
Are you always the one who reaches out? Check whether the pattern is a reciprocal friendship or one running on your effort alone.
What this means
Scores initiation frequency, duration, response quality, silence test outcome, and mutual support.
Formula used
Imbalance score weighted by initiation pattern, duration, response quality, silence test, and mutual support.
Worked example
Always initiates, pattern has lasted a year, friend responds politely but never follows up, silence test produced no contact: high imbalance score — friendship running on one person's effort.
Common questions
Is it bad to always initiate?
Not necessarily — some people are naturally less proactive about contact but are deeply invested in the friendship. The question is whether the pattern bothers you and whether the friend shows up in other ways.
Plain-English summary
Answer the questions to find out whether the friendship effort is reciprocal.
This section translates the result into a short, direct takeaway rather than leaving the page at a bare number.
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