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Am I Being Gaslit? Checker
Score five key gaslighting indicators to get a concern level reading — with a strong disclaimer that this is not a clinical diagnosis.
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What this means
This checker combines five indicators of reality-distortion patterns into a concern score. It is a reflection prompt, not a diagnosis.
Formula used
Concern score = (memory doubt × 7) + (denial × 8) + (confusion × 6) + (apologise × 5) − (others agree × 4)
Worked example
Memory doubt 7, denial 8, confused after arguments 7, apologise without knowing why 6, others agree 3 — concern score around 77/100.
Common questions
Is a high score proof I am being gaslit?
No. These patterns can have other explanations. This tool flags signals worth examining — it is not a diagnosis of the other person's intent.
What should I do with a high score?
Talk to a trusted person who knows both of you, or speak to a counsellor or therapist. If the situation involves control, fear, or safety concerns, contact a specialist support line.
Plain-English summary
Enter your scores to get a concern level reading with a clear disclaimer about what this tool can and cannot tell you.
This section translates the result into a short, direct takeaway rather than leaving the page at a bare number.
Read the guide
How to tell if you are being gaslit without accusing someone unfairly
A careful guide to the patterns associated with gaslighting, why they are hard to see from inside, and what to do if you recognise them.
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