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Should I Ghost?

Is ghosting justified here or are you avoiding a conversation you owe? Gets a verdict that names which situations genuinely call for a clean exit.

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Ghost verdict

Relationship type There was an explicit commitment, plan, or expectation set between you There is a genuine safety or harassment concern that makes contact risky They have been persistently disrespectful or abusive You have already tried to have the conversation and it went nowhere How uncomfortable would the direct conversation be? (1=easy, 10=genuinely dreaded)

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Describe the relationship and the situation. Podge tells you whether this is a justified exit, a short message, or a proper conversation.

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Obligation score = relationship depth + commitment made - safety concerns - previous attempts - early stage reduction.

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Three dates with no commitment, no safety issue, no conversation attempted: low obligation — fading is socially understood. Close friendship with an explicit commitment: conversation owed.

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Is ghosting ever acceptable?
Yes — in early dating, with safety concerns, after disrespect, or when a conversation has already been attempted and went nowhere. The obligation scales with depth of connection.

What counts as a brief message?
One sentence. Something like 'I don't think this is going anywhere — take care.' You do not owe a lengthy explanation, a reason, or an apology.

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Disclaimer: This is a social judgement tool, not relationship advice. It does not know the full situation. If safety is a concern, prioritise your wellbeing over social convention.

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