Life · Breakup timing
Breakup Timing Check
Is now actually a bad time to end this relationship, or is that a reason you have told yourself before? Covers the common deferrals.
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What this means
This instrument starts blank so it does not judge a made-up example before you have entered your own situation.
Formula used
Timing verdict = deferral legitimacy score − avoidance pattern indicators − time-in-consideration penalty
Worked example
A bereavement that happened last week is a legitimate reason to wait. A holiday booked six months ago that keeps getting cited is avoidance. The same birthday coming up every year is a signal the timing will never be right.
Common questions
What does 'avoidance' mean in this context?
Avoidance is when the stated timing reason is real but is being used to delay a decision that has already been made. The holiday is real. The birthday is real. But they keep appearing as reasons because the decision is already clear.
Is there ever a genuinely good time to end a relationship?
Rarely perfect. But some timing concerns are legitimate — active bereavement, acute mental health crisis — while others, like Christmas or exam season, are patterns people revisit annually without acting.
Plain-English summary
Fill in the questions on the left to generate a verdict card.
This section translates the result into a short, direct takeaway rather than leaving the page at a bare number.
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