Life · Resentment index
Resentment Build-Up Index
Have things gone unsaid long enough that the relationship debt is becoming structural? Returns whether a direct conversation can still repair it.
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What this means
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Formula used
Resentment index = incident count × recency weight + duration score − awareness offset
Worked example
Three unaddressed incidents over six months with the other party having no idea anything is wrong: high index — the accumulation is changing the relationship's baseline.
Common questions
What does 'structural' mean here?
Structural resentment is when the accumulation of unaddressed incidents has changed how you interact with the person day-to-day — not one thing that needs saying, but a pattern that has become the background of the relationship.
What should I do if the index is high?
A high index does not mean the relationship is over. It means a direct conversation is overdue — or that a more structured approach, like mediation or counselling, may be needed.
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