Life · Situationship checker
Situationship Verdict
Tick the markers that apply and Podge will tell you whether what you're in is a situationship, situationship-adjacent, or something that might still resolve.
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What this means
This tool counts seven situationship markers and adjusts for how long the ambiguity has been running. The longer something stays undefined, the more the pattern itself is the answer.
Formula used
Count of seven situationship markers plus a duration weighting — the longer the ambiguity has run, the more it matters.
Worked example
No label, never met their friends, last-minute plans, hot-and-cold contact, tried defining it and it didn't land, intimacy without commitment — six markers plus six months duration. Classic situationship. Zero markers, two weeks in — probably just new.
Common questions
What is a situationship?
A situationship is a romantic or intimate connection that has the features of a relationship — emotional closeness, physical intimacy, regular contact — but none of the definition. No label, no clear commitment, and often no clear conversation about what it is.
Does a high score mean I should end it?
Not necessarily. The tool flags the pattern — what you do with that information is up to you. Some people are happy with ambiguity; others find it draining. The problem with situationships isn't always the structure; it's when one person wants more clarity than the other.
Plain-English summary
Tick the markers that apply to get a verdict on whether what you're in is a situationship.
This section translates the result into a short, direct takeaway rather than leaving the page at a bare number.
Read the guide
What is a situationship — and how do you know if you're in one?
A situationship has the features of a relationship without the definition. Here's what that looks like in practice and why it tends to persist.
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