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People Pleaser Score
Is habitual agreeableness costing you more than it saves? Check your people pleaser score across conflict avoidance, feedback softening, and resentment.
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Pleaser score weighted by agreeableness frequency, feedback avoidance, comfort prioritisation, resentment level, and ability to decline.
Worked example
Almost always agrees to avoid conflict, always softens feedback, constantly prioritises others' comfort, significant resentment: score 14/15 — significant self-cost.
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Is people pleasing always bad?
No — considering others' feelings is prosocial. The issue is when it becomes habitual suppression of your own accurate self-expression, and when resentment builds as a result. The score identifies where on the spectrum you are.
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