Guide

Should I like my ex's engagement, wedding, or baby post

A calm look at what your reaction to an ex's milestone actually signals, who can see it, and whether engagement is the move you think it is.

The signal depends on timing and visibility

Reacting to an ex's engagement within hours, being one of the first to respond, or using a direct message all amplify the signal you send. A like three days in, from a casual mutual connection who sees hundreds of posts, reads very differently from a heart reaction at midnight when the post is still fresh.

Mutual friends change the radius

If your shared social circle will notice the reaction — or if the ex's new partner has access to the interaction — the gesture carries more weight than it might in a private, fully separated context. Before reacting, consider who is actually in the room.

Doing nothing is a complete sentence

Not reacting is almost never noticed. Reacting in ways that feel small to you can feel large to the people who care about the context. The Ex Engagement Like Detector is not designed to make the choice for you — it is designed to score the amplitude of the one you are already considering.

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